2014 Hopping Family Newsletter

2014 Hopping Family Newsletter

Dear Friends and Family, Merry Christmas from Josh, Emily, J and introducing Baby Hopping – for the first time ever we have reached the 4-month mark of a pregnancy! Just a few months after our failed adoption this summer we found out that God had answered J’s frequent prayers for another baby in an unexpected way. After only 2 pregnancies in our whole 14 years of marriage – both of which ended within the first 2 months – we had given up on producing biological children and were happily growing our family through adoption (something that we still believe in strongly and hope to get to do again at some point in the future.) Then J learned how to pray and regularly prayed for God to bring us another baby (in addition to praying blessings for Andrew and his birth-mom who decided to parent) – the faith of a 4-year-old is pretty potent! Thank you all for your prayers as well – we have really appreciated them throughout 2014 as we have faced a lot of transitions and hard times! We spent this spring finding a new pastor for the Vineyard church in Sweet and getting our house ready to sell. God brought the perfect couple to take our place and the transition was complete and official on June 1, 2014. The house, however, has proven to be a bit tougher of a process – after only one showing since April we put it on the rent market as well as for sale, but we’ve only gotten 3 lookers total even after dropping our price several times. We’ve reconciled...
Just Those Few Weeks

Just Those Few Weeks

It’s just after midnight and I can’t sleep… too many emotions….too many thoughts…. June 3rd… A day I lost my third child. Yes, a third child…two of them were lost in the womb; the third through selfishness and the legal process. I really want to shame the biological parents of the son I was to have…but that is not the way of Jesus. The way of Jesus is to bless those who hurt you… so I pray blessings, love, grace and mercy on them. May the King of Kings ever be in their sight; may they be the parents that my son needs them to be. And, Lord, while you are at it… could you help me figure out how to process this ’cause I don’t know how… ————————————————————————————— The below poem has been hanging on our wall for the past six years in remembrance of the two children we lost in the womb. Now it is a reminder of our third child… Andrew, we only knew you for a few weeks…but in that time you changed our lives. May you grow old knowing you were loved.   Just Those Few Weeks By Susan Erling For those few weeks I had you to myself. And that seems to short of time to be changed so profoundly.In those few weeks I came to know you and love you. You came to trust me with your life Oh, what a life I had planned for you! Just those few weeks When I lost you, I lost a lifetime of hopes, plans, dreams, and aspirations. A slice of my future simply vanished...
Saying Goodbye to My Son

Saying Goodbye to My Son

Part of my heart died yesterday morning….in a crazy sucker-punch move the birth mother of the little boy we were adopting decided that she wanted him back. Since she did this right before the judge officially terminated her rights, we had no choice but to turn him back over….so in effect, a son was born to us on May 23rd and died on June 3rd. Pain, grief, hurt, heartache… all words that mean a lot more today than they did Monday when I posted a celebration post… it is crazy how fast one’s life can change… Before I get too emotional (which I will in future posts), here’s a bit about the technical realities of adoptions. In any adoption there are three major landmarks: placement, parental termination, and finalization.Placement is when a child is placed with the adoptive family. When this happens there is usually a one to two week legal risk period where everyone is waiting on the courts to terminate the biological parents rights. Once the courts have terminated the parental rights of the biological parents, the child becomes a ward of the state with legal rights granted to the adoption agency who passes custody on to the adoptive family. At this point the biological parents can no longer get the child back – all their rights are gone (at least in Idaho, other states have different laws). The third landmark is finalization when the child officially becomes a member of the adoptive family and a new birth certificate is issued. This happens about six months after the placement date. During this period the adoption agency will...
Baby Brain and a Birthday

Baby Brain and a Birthday

Sorry for the lack of posts over the past two and half weeks… life has been crazy, to say the least.  On my last post I mentioned that we were looking at adopting a 3-month old baby boy – well, that happened. 😀 As of May 23rd, I am the proud father of two young boys. Much, much happiness!!! Life as we used to know it as officially ended as we are trying to figure out the two-child parenting deal. Luckily our new son is sleeping through the night most of the time (last night being the exception…) and is adapting to our crazy house fairly smoothly. In fact, he loves watching his older brother run around (build in experiment!). oh.. on the money front, thank you all who donated to our fund-raising campaign (adoptions are expensive!). We wouldn’t have been able to bring the child home had it now been for all of you pitching in and helping us cover the placement fees. We still have $3,000 that we have to pay this month as well as a few thousand later on this fall for lawyer fees (the adoption will not be finalized until November or December). Little by little things come together. 🙂 __________________________________ This last few weeks also brought my birthday into orbit once again. My oldest son and wife gave me a pair of dart guns, which (of course) led to an amazing gun fight throughout the house! It was the best birthday ever – a new son and a great gun battle!!!!...
Big News and a Request

Big News and a Request

On February 1, 2010 we were in a hospital waiting room as our first son was born. Even though Emily wasn’t the one in that hospital bed, Jadon was no less our son and has been such a wonderful part of our family. Two years ago we started the process to add to our family once again. After a lot of adoption paperwork, we got onto the waiting list at the beginning of 2013 and have been waiting on God’s perfect timing ever since. In the end it was a friend of Emily’s mom who introduced us to our new birth family. Andrew is already 3 months old and is currently living with his grandmother. She is a lovely Christian lady who is looking forward to being a grandma to Jadon as well – we’re excited to pursue an open relationship with her and her family! 🙂 We were able to meet Andrew and his biological family on May 4 in a park – Jadon had fun playing and we got to hang out and hold a cute baby. 🙂 We really hit it off and after a few counseling sessions with our adoption agency the family made the decision that they wanted us to adopt Andrew! Placement will be next week or the week after (May 21 at the earliest) and at that point we’ll owe $16,000, then in 4-6 months we’ll owe attorney fees as we pursue finalization. God has already blessed us with a $4,000 grant from Show Hope and a $2,500 matching grant from Lifesong – both agencies that helped fund Jadon’s adoption. In order to...